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Breast Cancer & Unhealthy Lifestyle

Breast cancer is one of the deadliest form of cancer. It can happens when our breast forms a cell that grows abnormal. In general, breast cancer is more common in women but it does not rule out that men can be possibly have this cancer. Many factors trigger the growth of breast cancer in our bodies, this happens when we continue to live unhealthy lifestyles such as smoking, consuming alcohol, and not paying attention to healthy food intake.

First, smoking has become one of the causes of breast cancer. Both women and men are familiar with smoking, even adolescence can consume more than two cigarettes a day. Smoking can cause a significantly increased risk of breast cancer for those who started smoking in adolescence. In general, breast cancer attacks in women. 14% women who had ever smoked were more likely to develop breast cancer than those who had never smoked (Rosenberg, 2017). Drg Rahmi Amtha, MDS. Sp.PM, Ph.D., chairman of the Indonesian Association of Oral Medicine Specialists said that cigarette contains hundreds of carcinogens. Carcinogens are a substance that encourages cancer. This substance worked in the body by changing the metabolism of the cells or destroy the DNA of the cells directly, it will cause cell mutations that interrupt normal biological processes in the body (Rafiqua, 2020). When people had a smoking habit, it means that there are so many carcinogens in their bodies. The more cigarette we smoke, the more good cells will change become malignant cells. That is the reason why smoking can cause breast cancer, smoking not only give an effect on our lungs but the contents of cigarettes, especially the carcinogen will spread to the body cells. When the body cannot control it, it will raise a tumour and then become cancer, one of which is breast cancer.

Second, consuming alcohol. Nowadays, consuming alcohol has become more common and even becomes a lifestyle. The youth push themselves to adopt a lavish and viral way of life. Without us realizing, alcohol becomes a way to unite some people. Alcohol makes for greater social status also improved friendship,  that is why so many people try to consume alcohol such as wine, beer, and booze. Some of them try to consume alcohol only to be cool with their friends. On the other side, some people also consume alcohol because they felt stress or depressed. Women are mostly at risk of developing breast cancer as women who consume alcohol 15 gram / 1, 5 glass per day get 34% breast cancer risk. The content of alcohol damages the DNA in the breast, it will increase the oestrogen hormone and other hormones that are connected to breast cancer. People who consume alcohol after giving birth, their breast cell system more resistant to cancer.  In fact, there are many people consume alcohol at young age. In America, there are 270 thousand cases and 55 thousand cases in England, which happened because a woman did not realize that alcohol can arise breast cancer. According to the research of a doctor from Washington, dr. Ying Liu, an adolescent who consume alcohol carries 7-10% breast cancer risk for one glass of alcohol that they consumed (Fitri, 2018, para. 5).

Third, one of the lifestyles that encourage breast cancer is unhealthy food. It cannot be denied that junk food becomes a favourite for some people. The taste is just irresistible for some people, as they overeat on eat junk food. Hamburger, pizza, spaghetti, hotdog, fried chicken, steak, and other junk foods, all of them contains a preservative that will be buried in our bodies. So why people still consuming junk food? The reason why people eat junk foods because they are simple and practical, people who do not like to cook will order some food by online. They also extracted by promotion or discount that the restaurant offered. That way makes people forget to consume a portion of healthy food, like vegetables and fruit. In fact, behind the delectation of junk food, they keep the grease in the body. Sandra Haslam, lead researchers from Michigan University, said that, not only obese people get cancer but the increases in greases from junk food increases breast cancer (Scribbr, n.d.). If people continue to consume junk food, they will keep greases in their bodies. There are two types of greases, good grease and bad grease. And what is produced from junk food is bad grease, which means it will increase cholesterol level and produced cells cancer.

Thus, as it can be seen, breast cancer can arise due to an unhealthy lifestyle such as smoking habits, consuming alcohol, and unhealthy food. We can start to change our lifestyle to avoid breast cancer, not only breast cancer but also keep our body in order to stay healthy.

 

Author: Titisari Sasmita 

 

References :

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  6. Rosenberg, Jaime. (2017, November 28). Study Link Smoking to Increased Risk of Breast Cancer. https://www.ajmc.com/view/study-links-smoking-to-increased-risk-of-breast-cancer
  7. Rafiqua, Nurul. (2020, March 12). Mengenal Bahaya Karsinogen dan Karsinogenik Beserta Bahayanya bagi Tubuh. https://www.sehatq.com/artikel/mengenal-karsinogen-dan-karsinogenik-beserta-bahayanya-bagi-tubuh
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Beauty Features

Gorgeous Makeup for college girls with: Stella Estee

Attractive appearance nowadays can be said to be a must for girls. In applying makeup, especially when they enter college, women start to learn a lot about using makeup for the campus and tips for daily makeup. Stella Estee, English literature 19, is happy to share her experiences in daily makeup. Stella Estee started to do makeup when she was in high school. She was motivated because many girls can use makeup and can look very beautiful.

Thus, began her journey to learn to do makeup.

It turns out that Stella Estee began to discover her talent in the world of make-up, which eventually becomes her hobby until now. She has also made money from winning several make-up competitions. She usually uses the Korean style for going to college because it will look fresh and young for her makeup. The cosmetics used usually only consists of concealer, cream blush, eyeliner lip balm, and lip tint. Her favourite of all parts of the face when in makeup is the eyes because they alone can make women look much attractive. It is recommended to use bb cream around the bottom of the eyes to cover dark circles.

Tips And Tutorial for Daily Looks

  1. Apply BB cream as a makeup base. Choose a BB cream with a matte finish or according toyour skin’s needs. And apply more BB cream on the part of the face that needs more coverage. However, use it as naturally as possible so that it doesn’t seem overdone or uneven skin tone.
  2. Do contouring on the face. Blend using a brush on the cheekbones and blend in a circularmotion on the chin.
  3. Use eye primer on the eyelids to make the makeup stick more and not fade quickly. In thistutorial, she also applies her eye primer to cover the dark circles under the eyes.
  4. Next, it’s time for you to shape your eyebrows. Draw eyebrows using an eyebrow pencilfollowing the shape of your eyebrows.
  5. After applying the eyebrow pencil, for makeup on the eyelids, you do not have to use eyeshadow. You can use the same product and color as you apply.
  6. Eyeliner only on the outer corner of the eye by forming a short line.
  7. Finally, apply lip tint or lip cream

Furthermore, Estee also highly recommends others interested in cosmetics to not forget to use skincare because it is very influential on your facial health. It’s also advised not to use makeup when your face has acne. Her recommendation also touched upon cosmetic brands that she often uses, namely Maybelline and Emina.

Journalist: Fatimah Fauziah Gunawan 

Editor: Michael Tan

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Getting to know Makeup Art from One of English Literature Student’s Perspective: Helena Nathania Yohani

Makeup is an art for people who love it. English Literature students themselves must be familiar with makeup; they mix and match their outfits with makeup to support their appearance. Makeup that is very popular among English Literature students is daily makeup which looks natural and simple. However, it turns out that there is also a student who does makeup outside of daily makeup, namely makeup art. Helena Nathania Yohani, or often called Hani by her friends, is an English Literature student who likes to make makeup art and makes it a hobby. Even though Hani herself admits that makeup art cannot be used when doing daily activities, she still does it to channel her hobby and love for makeup.

During the interview, Hani explained that when she learned about makeup art, she thought that makeup art was very cool and it was rare for people to do makeup art, especially in Indonesia. According to her, makeup art itself is not very popular among English Literature students. “There may be some people who do makeup art, but it’s not popular yet. Maybe it’s because it’s hard to do makeup art and it can’t be used every day,” said Hani. She also added that students who use makeup art are students who will perform performing arts, such as students who take part in theatre and dance activities. “In Sanata Dharma, those who usually wear makeup art are student organizers, which are Theater and Tutu Club,” she added.

Hani herself started liking makeup since she was little. She knows and loves makeup through her aunt. “When I was little, my aunt really liked to make me up. After a while I got used to it and even liked it,” she said. Hani also said that when she first started makeup, she didn’t do makeup art right away. She first tried regular makeup like daily makeup and started trying western-style makeup with bolder colours. At first, she was also not confident when she first tried makeup, but when she was in middle school she started to dare to show her makeup results. Hani said that her aunt was an inspirational person and also motivated her to always do and experiment with makeup, especially makeup art. “I am very grateful to my aunt because she has always supported my hobby.”

Hani did makeup art for the first time in 2012 and she still didm’t have a concept for her makeup art. However, after trying several times, she finally decided to look for inspiration and the concept of makeup art on google and Pinterest. The results are not very satisfying because you can say she is still beginners, but over time they will improve. Not only from google or Pinterest, Hani also gets inspiration from artists who do makeup art on Instagram. Even Hani said that filters from photo applications such as Snapchat could be an inspiration for her to create makeup art.

To do makeup art, Hani usually uses a small painting brush, makeup brush, beauty blender, face panting, eyeliner, and eyeshadow. “There are not many tools that are used, and they are easy to get at cosmetic stores, stationery shops for painting brushes, and of course online shops,” added Hani. She often buys her tools at online shops, but for paintbrushes, she prefers to buy them at a stationery shop.

Hani also shared a few tips for English Literature friends who want to try makeup art. When you just want to start doing makeup art, the first thing to do is buy face paint, a small painting brush for details, and a makeup brush. “You don’t need to buy an expensive one, just buy one that fits your budget. For those who can’t buy it, you can also use colourful eyeshadow, eyeliner, and eyebrow pencil to make drawing patterns and do the makeup art,” she said. Hani gave several online shop recommendations to buy makeup art equipment, such as ArtpediaShop (water-based face paint), maangeindonesia.id, hicamellia.id which can be found at shopee, and @valltanata a beauty vlogger who sells oil-based face paint and also makeup equipment. Others that can be found on Instagram. Hani also suggests looking for makeup art inspiration on google and Pinterest because there are so many choices of simple makeup art that beginners can try. You can also find information and inspiration for makeup art on Instagram by following a beauty vlogger from Indonesia.

“For friends who have or want to try makeup art, just try it first, keep working, just be confident. If you want to post on social media like Instagram, just post it, you don’t have to care about likes and comments,” said Hani encouraging friends who might be trying to start working on makeup art. Hani also added that we shouldn’t care too much about what people say; do what we really want to do, the most important thing is that we can still channel our hobbies and also the works of makeup art that we have made. According to Hani, the most important thing is that we feel happy and proud of ourselves for the works we have produced.

Journalist: Theresia Paskah Prastiti 

Editor: Michael Tan 

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Starting Your Own Business: Devaneira’s Thrift Shop, ‘@neyrooms’

When the pandemic outbreak started around March 2020 and the students were forced to hide at home, Deva  (184214062) lost all of her monthly stipends since she had to return to her hometown. Thus, with her minimum availability of money, she started to think of any possible strategy to turn the situation around. Departing from her very own hobby in fashion, she decided to open a thrift store in Instagram – well, the batch 2018, actually, aspires to open her own fashion brand, but “That’s a future shot” as Deva said.

https://www.instagram.com/neyrooms/

With now more than 21k (yes, twenty one thousands) followers and monthly income surpasses 6 – 8 millions rupiah, Deva’s thrift store, @neyrooms in Instagram (you have to follow and check them out!), has now developed massively in comparison to its starting point a year ago. It’s not exaggerating to say that the business is a beautiful success. Deva’s struggles, in the midst of her juggling between academic responsibilities and personal lives, are truly paid – especially in addition to the fact that every effort (connecting to supplier, doing marketing & promotion, conducting photoshoot for online catalogue) in the business are being done fully by Deva herself, independently. Really cool, right?

Luckily,

For whoever is inspired and interested, Deva is generous enough to share with us further about some of her prominent tricks in doing online thrift shop – based on her real experience as a digital businesswoman:

  1. Rebranding

A constant rebranding is important for whoever turns themselves into the fashion business. The key lies in trend awareness! One day, sweatpants were a mad hype, and the other day it might be sweaters. In this case, staying updated on the fashion market is very necessary. While it’s also okay to change your collection from time to time. Accordingly, you need to fully recognize your customers and markets.

  1. Patience

As an online-based business, handling the customers as well as courier service could be tricky and challenging at some points. It needs a whole lot of patience. One time, Deva’s goods were lost during the delivery and she didn’t have much of an option, but to declare it to the customers. Choosing the right courier service and maintaining good communication with the customer are very important.

3. Starting from smalls

Many people, fatally, aim for a big shot when they just start their own business. Deva chooses to disagree. She believes that a good business has to be initiated from scratch and small steps. Do not ever hoard goods stocks, because it will be much more difficult for you to sell later.

4. Last but not least, resilience

“It might be cliche, but do not ever give up!” Deva said. You have to keep going when you encounter challenges along the path. Certain negative thoughts might kill your will, and they are something that you have to dismiss since the very start. At the end of day, if you truly put time, effort, and patience into doing your business – in whatever it is – it shall work!

Journalist: Nathaniel Alvino Risa Prima

Editor: Michael Tan

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The Important Things in Running a Business: Andra Febri Aura

Since high school Andra (194214166) has been helping his father in running his family’s aquarium decoration business. Their shop named ‘Bang Jo’ sells many types of aquarium as well as other things such as sands, rocks, wood decorations, and many more. The shop earns approximately 5 million rupiahs per month.

According to Andra, there are three important things to do when running a business.

The first one is patience. In running a business, patience is very important. “We don’t know what kind of customers we get. So controlling emotions is very important,” said Andra. Besides dealing with customers, there are times when the incoming orders are out of control, either very much or not at all. So patience is the key to business success.

The second important things is finding connections. Social media has an important role in finding connections to get the best materials from suppliers. Andra uses the Facebook group to find supplier connections. He said, the downside of using social media to get connections is not being able to know the quality of the goods clearly, so to ensure the quality, he must go to the supplier directly. However, on the other hand, with social media, these connections are easier to obtain.

The final step is promoting and advertise. Once again, social media plays an important role in the business. He uses Facebook to advertise his shop. “For hobby items, Facebook has the best marketplace,” said Andra. He uses a Facebook group to advertise his product. He said in general, every times he post something in the group he could bring up to 25 customers.

In conclusion, according to Andra, there are three important things in running a business, namely patience, connection, and promotion. Patience is important to deal with customers and order conditions. Finally, to get connections and do promotions use social media as effectively as possible.

Journalist: Michael Surya D.P

Editor: Michael Tan 

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Features People

Liveliness from Passion: Reyna Qotrunnada Salsabillah

Yogyakarta, (05/08/2021) —As part of English Literature 2020, Reyna Qotrunnada Salsabillah is a student who actively participates various activities in campus. On this occasion, Reyna shared her experience of participation in campus activities such as Class Meeting 2020 and took part in big events such as Insadha 2021. Reyna have ambition to participate in activities that had a wide range that utilize her own passion.

Reyna has her passion in arts, especially in music and singing. Thus, she decided to join Siesen in Insadha 2021. Her goal joining Insadha 2021 is to be able to sing jingle songs which is sung by many students in campus. Not only that, earlier in her freshmen year, Reyna also participated in the song cover competition during Class Meeting 2020 and she won the competition that made her class feel proud. Her other hobbies when she has free time are reading books, watching movies, listening to music to add a lot of vocabulary. Outside of campus activities right now she is taking in her friend short films’ project as a scriptwriter and also taking part in the selection of soundtracks.

Of course, participating in various activities in campus and outside has advantages, such as having many friends and relations as well as gaining knowledge which is very precious and useful for the future. But also campus activity and her outside activity can be really hectic. Even though she is very busy, she also said that she’s lucky to have her friends near her “I’m very grateful to have many friends who always support and worry about her health because she joined many activities on campus.”

Her next goals in campus activities are that she wants to explore Sanata Dharma more. Explore all activities and people to find new experiences, friends, and knowledge. She also wants to bring something positive for Sadhar, whether from small things like my singing activities or later maybe other activities. Reyna still wants to attend big events outside campus to find new experiences and knowledge despite the pandemic. In the end, she clearly stated that she will not be leaving her academics behind, as it is as important as her desire to have her music & her work noticed and remembered well on campus.

 

Reporter: Sara Immaculata Terra I.

Writer: Fatimah Fauziah

 Editor: Michael Tan

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How does men dress up in English Letters? : Adrian Febriyanto

English Letters USD’s students are quite famous for their unique and bold fashion sense. Due to the non-strict regulation of dress code in this department, many of their students expressed their own self through fashion style. Adrian as one of English Letters USD also believes that the advantage of being part of this department is to be able to have the freedom of speech and act. The unique thing about fashion in English Letters department, it isn’t only for women. There are also a lot of men seen dressed up in this department.

In this interview, Adrian explained how men’s fashion has changed drastically especially from the Age of Conformity (1950s) to nowadays. From the age where everything seems just black and white and also conservative to the age where there are a lot of options for men to explore. He said, “now men’s fashion has changed and it’s getting wider, men can wear anything they want and no longer have to show his masculinity, they can wear skirts, crop tee and so on as long as it makes them comfy”.

However, in Indonesia, society still views men’s fashion as showing masculinity to look cool. Adrian believes that Indonesia has double standard in men’s fashion for example when Jefri Nichol wore skirts in his IG, people seem fine in the comment section.  But then, when non-celebrity men using the same things like skirts, people tend to judge or be sentimental about it.

Adrian believes in the principle that fashion is genderless. “Fashion can be worn by anyone without seeing their gender especially in 2021 right now everything has changed. Men can wear skirts, pearl necklace or even crop tee, heels and the otherwise, women also can wear jeans, tuxedo, hat, pantofel” he said.  He also stated that the stigma of fashion boundaries between men and women has low-key faded.

In the relation to the freedom that English Letters student has, Adrian believed that fashion in the department has no boundaries. He said, “EL students have the perks to dress up as we want and no one will judge you”. Adrian always expresses himself through fashion, even when he goes to campus (before the pandemic). He explained his own fashion as something that makes him comfy. “I always buy something oversize, either clothes or pants, because I really like when it looks loose when I wear it, and I always see what occasion that I head to”. Adrian always prepared his outfit to campus the night before. “I always prepare my outfit to be variative and make an extra effort to it, because whenever I did this, it makes me more excited to go to campus”.  

Adrian’s campus outfits mostly consist of t-shirt rather than collar shirts. But not only with a basic t-shirt as he mixes and matches it with other accessories such as Balinese cloth, collar, and tote bag. For the bottom, Adrian’s go-to is boyfriend jeans. The point is every day has to be different, may add some details or change the details.  

For hangout after the class outfit, Adrian has several tips. Start with the top, try to wear a basic tee that could be oversize or the fit one. Then mix it with boyfriend jeans and for the footwear, use converse 70’s. For the details you can also add a necklace and ring but, if you want to wear anything else that are more suitable for you are also suitable. “, if want to wear a skirt and crop tee, that is amazing as well, because when you are confident anything you wear will look totally cool”.

Most of his stylish outfit, he got it from IG thrift shops. “I highly recommend you to buy on thrift shop especially on IG. No need to buy something expensive because from the thrift shop u can get cool clothes, pants, and stuff”.  He recommended several of his go-to stores: @fuckyeahendy, @vaga3ond, @_dindayasmin, and @davidguison. 

At the end, Adrian believed that the most important thing is to be yourself and don’t think about someone’s opinion, just be comfortable in your own style. “Find your own style and when you think it is cool wear it because your uniqueness is something that you should be proud of and just ignore what people think,” he said.

 

Journalist: Sara Immaculata Terra I.

Editor: Michael Tan

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The subtle art of not giving a F***

Title: The subtle art of not giving a F*** (Sebuah seni untuk bersikap bodo amat)

Author: Mark Manson

Despite the title, the inside of the book is really the opposite. This book is not about not caring about things, but rather it asks you about what you care about the most and the reason behind it. According to the author himself, this book is about value. He said that he wanted it to be contradictory to the self-help industry. Most of self-help industry assume that your end goal is to have a perfect marriage, have children, live in nice house, etc. Instead, in this book, Mark Manson wants to point out that there are many definition of success and some of them may not be suited for you. He said that the important thing is getting head in life is not just figuring out how to accomplish goals you have, it’s more of asking what goals we should have and what thing we need to care about.

This book is divided into 5 chapters and each chapters of this book gives different value. Every value given by this book is pointing out the theme of this book, which is “negativity is the path to positivity”. The first value given by this book is comfortable for being different. Not caring doesn’t mean you are indifferent, it means that you are just doing something with your own ways. The author, Mark Manson said that if you give an f about nothing, that means you are giving an f about not giving an f, therefore indifferent is impossible. You just need to know what you need to give a f about. The second value is about the problem with happiness. To make it easier to understand, I will give an example about my hobby related to this value. In a game with a lot RNG in general, there are 2 types of player regarding their account. The first one is the one who always be grateful, either for a character, weapon, gear, etc. and the one who never get satisfied. People tend to always find happiness, but what happened when that person reach their goal? Mostly there is nothing, people just find another goal. When you reach your end goal, there are only dead end, but when you keep struggling there you will get more joy. Try to ask yourself “what am I willing to suffer for?” rather than “what do I want to become?” The 3rd value is no one is special. You are not special, he, she, everyone, they are not special, everyone is the same. Mark Manson said that something like ads or social media algorithm is not healthy because it is pushing you to feel you are the most special person. That can make a delusional person think that they are the exception and everything will arrange towards you, that’s what make it socially and mentally not healthy. The 4th and 5th values are about choices and related to each other. The 4th one hardly asks you what you need to care about, because if you have ambition but have the wrong goal, you are screwed. Lastly the 5th value is you are always choosing. It is no matter how good or bad the situation and your decision, you are always choosing. It is just whether you are admit it or not. But, human instinct may have reflect won’t to admit if they choose a bad decision. They will just blame it to something or someone.

If you want a self-improvement book, but you don’t like a conventional method that probably makes you think that you are very special, this book is for you. The beauty of this book is related to the theme “serendipity.” But in this case, it may already have happened without you realizing, you just need to look back and find it. The downside of this book, which I’m not sure it is a good thing or not, but because this book sells as a self-improvement book, I can see why people hate it, is this book’s tone is really casual. It is like you just sit in a café with the author and he tells you a story. Also as the tittle implied, there is a lot of f bomb and cursing in this book. But, for me it is fine.

Especially in this covid era, which I just assume that you are still staying to study, you may have several depression about this online classes, probably nonsense amount of assignment, and you probably cannot do the things you like and you just want to ignore everything and have fun. But, if you still survive, fight the struggle and enjoy the process, it is one of the good thing (I guess).

 

Writer: Michael Surya D.P. 

Editor: Michael Tan 

Pic: Google

Title: The subtle art of not giving a F*** (Sebuah seni untuk bersikap bodo amat)

Author: Mark Manson

Despite the title, the inside of the book is really the opposite. This book is not about not caring about things, but rather it asks you about what you care about the most and the reason behind it. According to the author himself, this book is about value. He said that he wanted it to be contradictory to the self-help industry. Most of self-help industry assume that your end goal is to have a perfect marriage, have children, live in nice house, etc. Instead, in this book, Mark Manson wants to point out that there are many definition of success and some of them may not be suited for you. He said that the important thing is getting head in life is not just figuring out how to accomplish goals you have, it’s more of asking what goals we should have and what thing we need to care about.

This book is divided into 5 chapters and each chapters of this book gives different value. Every value given by this book is pointing out the theme of this book, which is “negativity is the path to positivity”. The first value given by this book is comfortable for being different. Not caring doesn’t mean you are indifferent, it means that you are just doing something with your own ways. The author, Mark Manson said that if you give an f about nothing, that means you are giving an f about not giving an f, therefore indifferent is impossible. You just need to know what you need to give a f about. The second value is about the problem with happiness. To make it easier to understand, I will give an example about my hobby related to this value. In a game with a lot RNG in general, there are 2 types of player regarding their account. The first one is the one who always be grateful, either for a character, weapon, gear, etc. and the one who never get satisfied. People tend to always find happiness, but what happened when that person reach their goal? Mostly there is nothing, people just find another goal. When you reach your end goal, there are only dead end, but when you keep struggling there you will get more joy. Try to ask yourself “what am I willing to suffer for?” rather than “what do I want to become?” The 3rd value is no one is special. You are not special, he, she, everyone, they are not special, everyone is the same. Mark Manson said that something like ads or social media algorithm is not healthy because it is pushing you to feel you are the most special person. That can make a delusional person think that they are the exception and everything will arrange towards you, that’s what make it socially and mentally not healthy. The 4th and 5th values are about choices and related to each other. The 4th one hardly asks you what you need to care about, because if you have ambition but have the wrong goal, you are screwed. Lastly the 5th value is you are always choosing. It is no matter how good or bad the situation and your decision, you are always choosing. It is just whether you are admit it or not. But, human instinct may have reflect won’t to admit if they choose a bad decision. They will just blame it to something or someone.

If you want a self-improvement book, but you don’t like a conventional method that probably makes you think that you are very special, this book is for you. The beauty of this book is related to the theme “serendipity.” But in this case, it may already have happened without you realizing, you just need to look back and find it. The downside of this book, which I’m not sure it is a good thing or not, but because this book sells as a self-improvement book, I can see why people hate it, is this book’s tone is really casual. It is like you just sit in a café with the author and he tells you a story. Also as the tittle implied, there is a lot of f bomb and cursing in this book. But, for me it is fine.

Especially in this covid era, which I just assume that you are still staying to study, you may have several depression about this online classes, probably nonsense amount of assignment, and you probably cannot do the things you like and you just want to ignore everything and have fun. But, if you still survive, fight the struggle and enjoy the process, it is one of the good thing (I guess).

 

Writer: Michael Surya D.P. 

Editor: Michael Tan 

Pic: Google

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The Warmest Hello from Your Most Beloved

I found a way to let you win
But I never really had a doubt
Standing in the light of your halo
I got my angel now

Are you familiar with the song lyrics from above? The song above was performed by a famous American singer. Beyonce Giselle Knowles or better known by her stage name, Beyonce, recorded this song in 2008. Then, this song, “Halo”, was released on February 20, 2009. This song is very popular among young people because the music sounds cheerful and the lyrics are quite touching. In fact, “Halo” spent 31 weeks on the top 100 billboards in 2009 and its music video reached 1 billion views.

This song tells the story of a girl who had closed her heart tightly to anyone. She built walls and space for herself. She was too tired because she was getting a lot of bad treatment from the environment and people around her. She no longer wants to deal with the people around her by involving her heart. We’ve been like that too, haven’t we? We have felt hurt and disappointed because of the environment or people closest to us. We may or have closed the door of our hearts to others because we are too tired and disgusted by all the disappointment and sadness they keep giving us. However, believe me, all the disappointments and sadness that we have experienced do not always have bad ending.

In the song “Halo”, this girl finally finds happiness, the person she loves and loves her the most, even though she never thought of finding it. This girl didn’t think of finding someone who would understand her at all because she believed it was impossible. However, as in the lyrics “I got my angel now”, this girl managed to find someone who was very precious to her without even looking for it. She finally found someone who can give her happiness and can make her life more meaningful. She doesn’t need to worry about anything else because she has got a gift that gives her the strength to be able to run her day, no matter how bad it is.

In our life, we must have experienced this too. When we are really in a bad state, even without us asking or looking, there must be people closest to us who will give their love and attention to us. They indirectly provide enthusiasm and strength for us to live life as bad as it is. Spending time with someone we loved is really fun and happy, right? Therefore, don’t waste people who really love you. Stay cheerful in living your days, and don’t forget to always take care of yourself too!

 

Author: Theresia Paskah Prastiti 

Editor: Michael Tan 

Pic: Google

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Live and Chill : “You just forget”

(“Semua yang sirna ‘kan nanti terganti / Semua yang sirna ‘kan kembali lagi”) Those lyrics are from Hindia’s song outro “Secukupnya.” It means that “what has gone away will return, and what has gone away will be replaced” in English. Those lyrics have a major impact on my maturation process. I began to understand from the lyrics that life is not as simple as I had imagined. There are some things that I can obtain by hard work or chance, and those that are not for me. I used to blame myself for what I couldn’t have back then. I couldn’t tolerate losing something, being rejected, or not being able to achieve my goals. I didn’t want people to see me failed because it was something I didn’t want them to see. I tried to make someone proud of me, and if you’re wondering why this happened to me, I’m not sure either. As a result, I was unable to live in the present and be content. My daily bread was trust issues and cynical thoughts – I kept asking myself, “Is this good enough for me?” But life goes on, and I meet a lot of people and learn every single word, saying to me, “That’s life.” Something brighter than ever has caught my attention now. I’d like to take this opportunity to say a few things about serendipity – discovering goodness without looking for it.

You feel angry, disappointed, and helpless due to your loss and failure. It is really normal. Life is an endless suffering. Life would not give you a break. There is no pause button in life, just like when you play online game and your mom ask you to pause the game, you can’t do that, right?. As the time goes by, nothing is getting easier. I, myself, have a really pessimistic view for life. Through this pessimistic view, I could learn how to be chill in life and enjoy every ups-and-down. If world gives you lemon, makes it lemonade. It tastes sour for the first time, but you can make it tastes a lot better by adding other ingredients in it. Moreover, you even could make a profit from the lemon which tastes sour when you try it for the first time. At this point, it is just like our life. We have bad experiences, but after all we can learn from them and get a better result in the end. It will turn out as advantages for us after all. There is nothing wasted. Every wound will shape you; every scar will build your throne.

“It is just not my time, I will wait for it comes later”. I know each of us has a different pace to live, but it is not how it works. Beside than waiting your time, why don’t you make it come to you? Something is given for them who deserve. If you don’t deserve, just accept it that your time will not come to you. Well, for me, it is a good start as an acceptance stage, but as what I’ve said before that life doesn’t have a pause button. You are who can save yourself. What good for me is not always good for you. Just let it flow, whatever it will be, will be. “You can say like that because you have privileged life”, if that what you want to say as an argument, then you are really don’t deserve with something good. We have a different start, so our kind of good and success is also different. It is okay to be motivated by someone, but keep this in your mind, you are you, the one and only you.

As conclusion, you just need to be chill for what will happen for you. You wait for goodness come, but how if you don’t know that it has come in front of you? Or you have not ready to take them?. Binge-watching your favorite series, doing your assignment, listening to your favorite music, sleeping, or working, you can do anything what you want and something good will be there for you because you enjoy it in present. Make it not find it.

 

Journalist: Juhandi Dwi Putra Lyana 

Editor: Michael Tan